Rules For A No Stress Wedding
He proposed! Finally! Now for the tough part: planning of the wedding. You may be having a stress attack just thinking about it. The list of things to do is a mile long. Even the wedding invitations are giving you nightmares. Who should you invite? Who should you avoid? This is the time to make a firm decision: you are going to relax and not permit the stress over minor details to ruin the best day of your life.
Wedding invitations. Every family has a member that should be locked in a safe place and not allowed to go around unsupervised. Make a deal with your future husband: it is up to both of you to invite only people who will make your wedding a festive event and not something that will appear in the Sunday papers as a scandal of the year.
There are few things you can do to minimize amount of stress and still have all details just the way you want them: pay a wedding planner, or find a very organized person and put her in charge. (Both of these people should be able to put up with your mother and your mother in law!)
Elope or not elope? If you can afford it, elope. Get your parents or parents-in-law to pay for a wedding in Venice or Fiji. In exchange, treat them with a wonderful dinner in a fancy restaurant. You might be surprised how welcome your suggestion might be. You are not the only one agonizing over all the wedding details. It is a big day for your mother, father, mother-in-law, and probably many other relatives and friends who love weddings.
If you do like big white weddings and want all of your 500 relatives, friends and people you met once or twice to share in your bliss that is fine too. But if you are feeling stressed and you do indeed have the budget available, do yourself a favor and hire a wedding planner. The logistics of a big wedding are daunting, and the amount of stress involved in not worth it. Just give a professional a list of your demands and let him or her run with it. Try to avoid micro- management, it is asking for trouble. Nothing ever goes completely as planned, so cool it and put things in perspective. What matters is the big picture: a great party and your happiness.
In the end, nobody will remember that the wedding invitations were misspelled or that the wine was warm and the soup was cold. However, you do not want them to remember you shrieking at your hairdresser who put gardenias and not roses in your hair. Relax; it is just a minor detail that can be easily fixed. Actually, all the details are minor. What matters is that you and your darling are starting a new life together with a wonderful, warm, stress-free ceremony. A lot of good champagne will also help.
Wedding planner Niki Johnson can help you design the perfect wedding invitations and other wedding stationery for any wedding ceremony, from classic to modern.
